The Recovering Path from Grief
- Sharing of Mr Lai Cheuk Bun, JTTC's volunteer
My wife died a sudden death. I still remember vividly our chat over the phone on daily chores. Yet, half an hour later, I got a call telling me she was killed in a car crash. I was so shocked that I felt like my head was buzzing, my eyes blinding and my feet drifting along as if I was floating on a cloud. I was mute and made no response. Since then, my mind was in a whirl and I became a lone ghost getting nowhere. I had no clue how to get on with my life.
I tried approaching relevant social services for support. My case was either closed after brief intervention or rejected due to the shortage of agency resources. It was only a few months later, that I was introduced to JTTC for help. Given the previous negative experiences, I did not hold much hope initially. Yet through face to face counselling with the social worker there, who also encouraged me to join the bereavement group, the Remembrance Services as well as other activities, I began to walk out from my low point. In JTTC, I have come to know people on the same boat. We understand each other without having to explain our tears and pain. A simple caring word would have soothed our tiresome mind and lifted us out of our depressed mood.
Later, I joined the Alumni to help others and also myself. By assist in planning and taking part in various kinds of activities, such as outdoor visits, hiking, games and sharing meals, I gradually regained a sense of meaning in my life. “Giving” is indeed a source of happiness. I believe that our beloved now in the Heaven would love to see us to find our way and move on happily.
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